27 Social Ettiquettes No One Told You About

Today’s world is busy promoting the satisfaction of the ‘self’. We are constantly reminded through social medias and any other type of media to think about ourselves and not mull over things and people which give us stress or annoy us. We are told ‘be yourself’, however what if the being so is a form of nuisance to the other person, as oftentimes the other person getting the brunt of someone’s bad manners is I, Me, Myself. Then it is totally not COOL. Life is definitely not about being stuck- up as a stubborn mule. Its all about

  • Learning
  • Unlearning
  • Re-Learning

To be honest, social etiquette are often bound by the culture and territories. However politeness and consideration is universal. Well, all the more some of what I write will arise from my experiences as a parent. You are welcome to oppose them!

  1. Let’s start from the beginning , shall we? Thinking on paying that friend a visit who is mostly buried under loads of work owing to her  little children and zero  help. Its always a better idea on giving them a heads up rather than crash landing at their house. Saves a lot of embarrassment at times. Not to forget they might simply not be available, saves you all the trouble too! Having said that in certain cultures its totally cool as well, so know your call. (see cover photo)           soet3
  2. Try being a little punctual. But of course getting your kids up, about and ready is no mean feat but you can do it when you just start early         soet4
  3. When invited for a dinner  try showing up  with a small gift likesome chocolates or home-made dessert rather than empty-handed. However if every time it is a 100 dollar Starbucks card then unconsciously you  may be causing your host a dilemma . Remember most people return favors. Inviting you to their house should not be a expensive affair for them until your friend is a high flying socialite. Then it is totally cool!soet32.jpg
  4. Hello? Do you mind putting down that gadget when someone is talking to you. If it is so difficult then why not stay at home..eh?soet8
  5. Now that you are all warmed up and ready to talk your heart out. Can I remind you of a golden rule please. Please refrain from asking intimately personal questions like ‘when are you getting married?’ and ‘when are you having kids?’. You simply have no idea what they are going through in their lives. Yes, go ahead and bite your tongue , please.soet10
  6. Well you are talking from your heart, you are with friends after all but please spare a thought for others, they might have something to say as well. Prevent your conversations from being perfect monologues and please Do not be a douche bag!
  7. soet5.jpgWhen in a group avoid whispering. If you love whispering sweet somethings in the ears of your favorite friend try playing Chinese whispers!soet31
  8. When someone is talking to you about their hectic life or some tragedy which they are trying to overcome. Please don’t rush to tell them, ‘It happened to me too,” or “you should listen to my story”, sometimes all someone needs is a shoulder to cry on.soet13
  9. Do not over-indulge in taking selfies. It depends a lot on the nature of the group you are with. If it is a formal do its going to be a tad too uncomfortable for others if all you can think of is gathering perfect selfies to upload on social media.. Remember studies are telling selfie is a form of mental illness. Need some more discouragement..?soet34
  10. Coming to Children, they intrinsically have a different level of energy at varying stages. No need to be bitchy if you spot those kids scampering through your house. That’s what kids do unless you were born yesterday.soet15
  11. Although if you want a little peace or disapprove of it either do not invite the little things or provide them something to keep them busy or assign a corner of the house with some safe toys and craft to keep them engaged.soet16.jpg
  12. If there is something you fear may get vandalized such as precious artifact make arrangements to secure it before anyone arrives. Same goes for things like crayons if you fear some mischievous kid might color your favorite wall with it . Just remove the damn thing rather than crying over spilt milk.soet17.jpg
  13. Always keep some food for children. Not every time will kids prefer the spicy food that you relish. Try keeping some options for the kids as well such as nuggets and cheese pizza. Always helps to have the kids fed and engaged.soet18
  14. Do not force feed other peoples children with stuff that the actual parents opposed. Respect the rules set by parents. Their is surely some thought behind it.soet19.jpg
  15. Do not criticize anyone’s parenting techniques. It is outright rude.soet11
  16. Do not give unwanted advice. This is one of the most annoying things that you can do. Trying to help your friend is one thing but telling them what you should be doing every time is telling  them you are smarter.soet20
  17. Do not use your spouse or kids or any other family member as a  as a butt of all your jokes. Remember you have to go back home!soet14
  18. Always keep cleaning equipment handy.Avoid making your guest feel unwelcome for dirtying your carpet. Do not get flustered.soet27
  19. Be first aid ready.soet28
  20. Do not get involved in kid fights. Their is a reason why they are kids, do not be one.soet22
  21. Teach children  thank yous and please, please. It helps to be polite. At the same time practice the same as well!soet26
  22. Listing out your children’s merits and achievement does not sound too modest, unless someone asks for it.soet24.jpg
  23. You are hosting a party and you love the meat. However do not assume that everyone is a  hard core meat eater in your gathering .Their may be someone who is a vegetarian. Provide an option for them too or it can get awkward. It always help to be aware.I know that my husband is, a vegetarian!
  24. soet30.jpgDo not waste food in a party. the food looks way too tempting and you simply lost account of how much you wanted to eat and how much you actually ate.soet21.jpg
  25. Lets talk a little hygiene, find a sneeze coming (they often do out of the blue, at times) and you do not have a tissue at hand, simply sneeze in the cranny of your elbow, never in the palm of your hands . Remember you are going to be using that a lot , while shaking hands or eating and what not. This way you do not pass off the infection 🙂soet35
  26. Help to clean the litter until the host has a barrage of help at their beck and call.soet22
  27. Being a guilty or under confident host can kill all the excitement out of the party.Most important is a happy host.Also we like people who are cheerful and positive and shun those who are sulky or gloomy most of the time. Do not feel positive, simply fake it , it works. Remember, Happiness is infectious.soet29Having stated all this I must clarify that most of the things I stated above are subjective. What is required is that you use your sense of judgement to realize the behavior which is suitable to your culture and environment. Whatever you do be yourself  and be considerate to others too.   While you are doing all this please do not forget to enjoy yourself as well..Happy Socializing..Keep Smiling ! 🙂


17 Comments Add yours

  1. Hey, I thoroughly enjoy reading your posts…cheers!!!

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    1. Hey it really made my day hearing that 😍

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      1. Glad to have made your day 😀

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  2. survivingbutterfly says:

    You just mentioned all the things I agree with. You must be an awesome person to be around😄

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    1. I never really noticed as I am too busy having fun too 😜..however I am sure this makes you an awesome person too..reminds me hearing such great stuff really makes my day all the more as it my birthday too 😍☺️

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  3. survivingbutterfly says:

    It’s your birthday? If so, happy birthday! 🎉

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  4. Great post! Thank you for #23. I’ve actually bowed out of dinner invites because I didn’t want the host/ess to go to extra trouble.

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    1. Haha..I can really understand that 😊

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  5. Nam H Nguyen says:

    This is perfect!
    My girlfriend is a vegetarian btw (#23)
    You will be surprised by how many people encourage her to eat meat (by removing the vegetables from the menu)

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    1. lol..I really feel that being a vegetarian is more common than we think it is..as for what u shared about those suggestions to eat after removing the meat is so common too :)..however I tell you they never work 😉


      1. Nam H Nguyen says:

        They don’t work and it just serves to offend your guests.
        I think it’s like. ..10% of people are vegetarian?

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        1. maybe their are or maybe their are more …whatever makes each one of us happy :)..thanks for sharing that Nam 🙂

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  6. rupalislale says:

    Nice post, happy birthday.

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    1. Thanks a lot Rupali 🙂


  7. parijat shukla says:

    great to read and learn. thanks ☺

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    1. Thank you so much Parijat..sorry for the late reply..but really appreciate it 🙂


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